If you need proof, just look at the state negativity that many if not most people live with and the drama and heartache that the world bases their lives on.
What are repressed, denied feelings?
Everyone experiences negativity throughout his or her life. This has come to be a big part of living in the world we call home. I would venture to say that no one is immune to repression because it cannot be avoided; it starts the first second we are born.
The idea of repressed feelings starts as soon as we begin experiencing live. We arrive into the world with no association of feeling, just a reactive being that knows to cry when uncomfortable. We all have needs and began life by sensing how our parents respond to it, then react accordingly to keep any needs fulfilled.
The idea of manipulating others to stay comfortable begins restricting life's energy towards ourselves from the first day of life. The thought of "I am not good enough unless this person or I" ….insert feeling here…. is installed into a pliable, impressionable mind as who we are and how we should react. Since many lessons in life caused pain or were directly taught that it was unacceptable to do something or feel a certain way, it has a negative connotation associated with the area of life, so we repress, or hide it to avoid facing or feeling it.
There are literally infinite ways this can play out in one's life; each experience, lesson, idea and so on is completely subjective to other experiences but builds in a person's mind, throughout life as what they know to be true.
Example: As a baby, we cry and we are fed. If we cry and no one responds, we may cry louder. This association of "I am not good enough so I must cry louder to get what I need" starts our life's experience. Our feeling of "I must cry louder" is an underlying feeling that causes a skewed view and therefore a similar reaction to each experience in life.
The repressed feeling starts as an annotation in one's mind that "because I felt pain when I was ignored, this idea is bad" and therefore extends to, someone who ignores another is bad. The mind will refuse to let itself believe that it possesses the same qualities and blames any feelings on others to protect itself from, one: the physical pain that comes up when the feelings arise, two: our brains not having the ability to distinguish from our thoughts and self. If we accept bad feelings as ours, then to an unaware mind that is like telling ourselves that we are just as bad as our feelings.
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